I must admit that I didn’t jump on this book immediately when it came out because I thought it would be just like all the other “Christian” sex books. I thought it would tell me about the different sexual positions and how it was good to be a virgin on your wedding night, then it would go into detail on all my body parts and what they did…..Booo-riiing! I was wrong, this is probably one of the best books I’ve ever read on sex (even if it was written by a Christian). I know, I’m a Christian, and I don’t have much faith in our ability to write books on sex, we seem to miss the point, the passion, and the raw masculinity vs femininity of the moment. When I think of Christian sex, I usually don’t think of hot sex and I want hot sex for my marriage, so I thought this book might be a waste of my time, but it wasn’t.
Sheila is surprisingly raw, she doesn’t hold back on talking about sex toys, masturbation, role playing, how to have different orgasms…any of the good stuff. She also has priceless little “good girl dares” sprinkled throughout her book that I’m planning on writing down, putting in a jar and pulling one out every Friday night.
Good Girl Dare “Grab him and lead him into the bedroom. And don’t grab him by his hand” Sheila Wray Gregoire
Sheila goes into lots of detail about problems that commonly come up in marriages that could affect one’s sex life. Did you know that 50% of men between the ages of 40 and 70 have intermittent erectile dysfunction? That is a good thing to know as a wife, so your husband doesn’t feel bad and alone if it starts happening to him.
The best part of this book is her focus on making sex a connection between two people instead of a selfish seeking of pleasure and thrills. The thrills are good, but they are not the point of sex. She also does a good job of connecting spirituality and God to sex and marriage and making God the one we turn to when things are difficult (and when they’re good) to help us overcome. She is very open and honest about her own sex life and some of the difficulties that her and her husband have had to overcome, this book is full of wisdom and encouragement for women. It made me re-think how I don’t have to compete with porn stars to win my husband’s love. She also does a great job talking about the differences between how men and women think, relate to each other, and view sex. I wish I’d known that my husband was completely different from me in regards to how he approached sex when we were first married, I think I’d been told…kind of, but I didn’t get it; I feel like I’m just starting to get how he thinks. Anyway, great book, great wedding present for young women, great gift to give to your daughter….I highly recommend it.
- Overcoming The “Dirty Girl” Paradigm: Embracing God’s Plan For Sex (melissajenna.com)
- A Good Girls Guide to Great Sex by Shelia Wray Gregoire (wyominggirlcoastiewife.com)