I have recently found out that it’s not very feminine to initiate sex, and when I think about it, it’s really not. It’s okay to initiate sex with your husband and even good sometimes, but it isn’t the best way. The feminine way to initiate sex is more indirect, more of an attitude and a convincing, a much more subtle seducing.
I’m not very feminine with my husband, so bear with me, I’m learning; but here’s what I’ve got so far. To seduce your husband; smile at him often, respond positively when he touches you and gives you attention, touch him often throughout the day and give him long kisses before either one of you leaves the other to go somewhere, when you wake up, and before you fall asleep.
He needs to know that you are willing and available and are very likely to say yes to his advances. His teasing throughout the day are just little testers he is sending out to see if you still want him sexually, so if you glare at him instead of giggle when he does something silly, it discourages him from initiating sex. Be very careful with your no’s and your rejections, they go much deeper than you would think. Admire him, appreciate the work he does when he does something worthwhile, and try to think of genuine compliments to give him. When he sits on the couch, go sit next to him and snuggle into his arm, let him know that he is irresistible to you and you can hardly stand to see him without touching him somehow. Treat him like you did when you first started dating him.
And finally, can’t believe I almost forgot. Look pretty! Present your body as a beautiful gift just waiting for him to unwrap you. Wear colors that look well on you, choose clothes with feminine details like puffed sleeves, skirts, lace, satin, or chiffon. Put on pretty matching underwear and a push-up bra that makes those girls look very nice, and then cover them up for him to discover later. Wear something that makes you feel beautiful instead of just comfortable, maybe even some heels, he’ll know what they mean.
- For the Men: Initiating Sex and Making it Hard to Say No (passionatechristianmarriage.wordpress.com)
- Seductress I crave (sarahjaneprosetry.wordpress.com)
- ALWAYS ASK A MAN: Arlene Dahl’s Key To Femininity (Oct, 1965) (modernmechanix.com)