I have recently found out that it’s not very feminine to initiate sex, and when I think about it, it’s really not. It’s okay to initiate sex with your husband and even good sometimes, but it isn’t the best way. The feminine way to initiate sex is more indirect, more of an attitude and a convincing, a much more subtle seducing.
I’m not very feminine with my husband, so bear with me, I’m learning; but here’s what I’ve got so far. To seduce your husband; smile at him often, respond positively when he touches you and gives you attention, touch him often throughout the day and give him long kisses before either one of you leaves the other to go somewhere, when you wake up, and before you fall asleep.
He needs to know that you are willing and available and are very likely to say yes to his advances. His teasing throughout the day are just little testers he is sending out to see if you still want him sexually, so if you glare at him instead of giggle when he does something silly, it discourages him from initiating sex. Be very careful with your no’s and your rejections, they go much deeper than you would think. Admire him, appreciate the work he does when he does something worthwhile, and try to think of genuine compliments to give him. When he sits on the couch, go sit next to him and snuggle into his arm, let him know that he is irresistible to you and you can hardly stand to see him without touching him somehow. Treat him like you did when you first started dating him.
And finally, can’t believe I almost forgot. Look pretty! Present your body as a beautiful gift just waiting for him to unwrap you. Wear colors that look well on you, choose clothes with feminine details like puffed sleeves, skirts, lace, satin, or chiffon. Put on pretty matching underwear and a push-up bra that makes those girls look very nice, and then cover them up for him to discover later. Wear something that makes you feel beautiful instead of just comfortable, maybe even some heels, he’ll know what they mean.
Related articles
- For the Men: Initiating Sex and Making it Hard to Say No (passionatechristianmarriage.wordpress.com)
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- ALWAYS ASK A MAN: Arlene Dahl’s Key To Femininity (Oct, 1965) (modernmechanix.com)
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Sounds logical to me! Great advice!
I ditto thehomeschoolingmomblog. We’ve been married for over 25 years and these (methods, if you will) are ageless and proven! Love your candor sista!
Thank You for the link. And I think this truly depends on your definition of feminine
I think times might have changed since this definition of feminism, but sometimes I still try.
for crying out loud just push him down and say you want to fuck
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The Bride in the Song of Songs was not subtle and was fully and appropriately feminine in her overtly sexual confidence and initiative.
To seduce is to persuade, entice, or induce to sexual intercourse.
To initiate is to propose, to begin, set going.
If a woman is seducing (again, the objective being to entice to sexual intercourse) how is that NOT initiating, as in proposing, beginning, or starting, whether subtly, which is subject to misinterpretation, or overtly?
It’s unfortunate that you seem to have been mislead, IMO, to believe that sexual confidence in a woman is somehow less feminine. I propose, a sexually confident woman, especially in a relationship that permits freedom of initiation, is most fully feminine.
You have given me a challenge. I can’t think of a good biblical example of the man pursuing a woman other than Christ pursuing the church. This is interesting, something I didn’t think the culture had influenced this idea so much. David pursues Bathsheba, but that really isn’t the best example. Ruth pursued Boaz, Jacob worked to marry Rachel (this is the closest I’m getting), Isaac sent a servant to go get Rebecca. I don’t know if romance was considered very much in biblical marriages. I’m going to think on this.
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Good article! I find that smoochy texts (i miss you/love you/cant wait to see you, etc) throughout the day are also very effective!
I like smoochy texts too! We try to email each other at least once a day, it’s fun to get the extra attention while he’s at work.
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