It was interesting to read these two posts side by side yesterday. Athol Kay talked about what the law should be in marriage to make it successful and Sheila Wray Gregoire emphasized what the gospel should look like in marriage by deciding to love your spouse unconditionally like Christ loves us. Athol Kay gives some very good rules for what makes a marriage successful; the problem is, is that most of his readers’ marriages have probably already failed that contract and they don’t want to divorce, but if they really did follow those rules, they would be required to divorce, so mercy is also necessary
The bible gives us both the law and the gospel, it isn’t one or the other, God makes it possible for both to work in our lives. The law shows us what to do for the best possible life, it gives us a goal to try to attain, and it also shows us that we are going to fail and that we can’t do it on our own.
We can keep trying on our own, and some people might actually succeed at following all of the rules, but the bible has shown that this creates a proud and unmerciful heart, and pride was one of the more hated sins by Christ. So pray to the Lord for strength to keep those marriage vows and when you fail (or your spouse is failing), go to Christ and depend on Him and not yourself. He is enough! The purpose of marriage is to be a reflection of the relationship between Christ and the church, not to satisfy our needs or to make us happy. Those are just side benefits that God blesses us with for obeying Him.
“Not by might nor by power but by my Spirit” says the Lord God Almighty
- Nine Ways the Gospel Transforms Marriage / Desiring God (craigsturm.wordpress.com)
- Covenant Marriage (Sexy Christian Wife)