“woman is specially made to please man. If man ought to please her in turn, the necessity is less urgent. His merit is in his power; he pleases because he is strong. This is not the law of love, I admit, but it is the law of nature, which is older than love itself. . . .
ooh, I like the idea of being specially made to please man, especially a strong man.
If woman is made to please and to be subjected, she ought to make herself pleasing to man instead of provoking him. Her strength is in her charms; by their means she should compel him to discover his strength and to use it. The surest way of arousing this strength is to make it necessary by resistance. Then amour-propre joins with desire, and the one triumphs from a victory that the other made him win. This is the origin of attack and defense, of the boldness of one sex and the timidity of the other, and even of the shame and modesty with which nature has armed the weak for the conquest of the strong. .
Does smiling or high heels count as charm? What’s the difference between provoking and resisting?
There is no parity between the two sexes when it comes to the consequence of sex. The male is only a male in certain instances; the female is female all her life or at least all her youth. Everything reminds her of her sex, and to fulfill well her functions she needs a constitution that relates to them.
ie. women should act like women all of her life
She needs care during pregnancy and rest when her child is born; she must have a quiet, sedentary life while she nurses her children; their education calls for patience and gentleness, for a zeal and affection which nothing can dismay.
I’ve noticed that if my internet/work life gets too exciting, I forget to think about the children as often as I should. Patience is such an important tool in my life, and I’m learning to be more gentle. Zeal and affection as tools of learning, makes sense to me.
She serves as a liasion between them and their father; she alone can make him love them and give him the confidence to call them his own. What tenderness and care is required to maintain a whole family as a unit! And finally all this must not come from virtues but from feelings without which the human species would soon be extinct.” (from Emile, Jean Jacques Rousseau)
again, tenderness is her method of encouraging him to be a father.
What do you think of Rousseau’s ideas?
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