We are told to respect our husbands in the bible, and if we don’t have a good example of what respect is, then the easiest example I can relate to is how you would treat a king. The king is powerful, kind and gentle with his wife. He respects her back because she is the daughter of a powerful king and she is worthy. When they are in public, he should be in control not her. She should never correct or embarrass him. She should do her best to dress nicely and be worthy of her position as his wife. She should share her gifts with others around her and be generous. He shouldn’t humiliate her in public either. She shouldn’t try to outshine him in front of others. She should be beautiful at all times in front of people.
BDSM wouldn’t be an issue because she is a queen! I know life isn’t a fairytale, but that doesn’t mean we should give up honorable ways. Kings shouldn’t have to worry about proving themselves to their wives, their work needs to be to win the battle, to be willing to give their lives to protect a people or for a cause, bravery should be his goal not popularity. They should both treat each other with the utmost respect. Queens wouldn’t write about their sex lives online. The higher and more honorable the king is, the higher the wife is also. It is in both of their best interest for the wife to glorify the king every opportunity she gets. It makes him look strong when he is giving to her and her look beautiful when she is graciously receiving what he provides. She should give him the gifts of loyalty, honor and a willing heart to please and obey him and in return he loves her, provides, and protects. If you treat your husband like a king, he will be more likely to return respect to you. If you treat him like a fool, he will grow angry and feel he has to prove something or he’ll just give up and escape or he’ll demean you so your comments are worthless in his mind. You have power to influence him only if you treat him as worthy. Choose an honorable relationship rather than a selfish one. Give more than you receive instead of being the fat, rich royalty who sits on their throne and ignores what’s outside of their castle walls. Have a higher purpose than yourselves as a couple. A marriage is supposed to be a representation of Christ and the church and Christ is a king and the church is His beautiful pure bride.