And she needs a song…
photo found at…
http://bellydanceraks.tumblr.com/post/19409375647/zoeteho-tribal-dance
“She was a Phantom of Delight”
She was a phantom of delight
When first she gleam’d upon my sight;
A lovely Apparition, sent
To be a moment’s ornament:
Her eyes as stars of twilight fair;
Like twilight’s, too, her dusky hair;
But all things else about her drawn
From May-time and the cheerful dawn;
A dancing shape, an image gay,
To haunt, to startle, and waylay.
I saw her upon nearer view,
A Spirit, yet a Woman too!
Her household motions light and free,
And steps of virgin liberty;
A countenance in which did meet
Sweet records, promises as sweet;
A creature not too bright or good
For human nature’s daily food,
For transient sorrows, simple wiles,
Praise, blame, love, kisses, tears, and smiles.
And now I see with eye serene
The very pulse of the machine;
A being breathing thoughtful breath,
A traveller between life and death:
The reason firm, the temperate will,
Endurance, foresight, strength, and skill;
A perfect Woman, nobly plann’d
To warn, to comfort, and command;
And yet a Spirit still, and bright
With something of an angel light.
-W. Wordsworth
Tagged: art, beautiful, belly dancer, dancer, feminine, gypsy
Comments seems to be fercockted tonight.
oh well, /grin
I tried reposting a couple of itmes and then wordpress says this is a duplicate comment and has been deleted. It would take the post but show nothing until I entered the above comment which it took for some reason.
that’s weird
Yeah, and I had so much fun with it. I thought you would really enjoy it. It’s really neat when a lot of diverse elements come together and interlock so well. Put a lot of work into researching it and then writing. So frustrating. I’ll try mailing it to you so at least you can enjoy it. I penned it for itsmymuse and you.
oh good, I’m glad you saved it.
In pcm mailbox waiting for you as I type.
got it! funny. Is that from the British knight show that everyone watches?
I replied to you just now and it did it again. Did’t save that thoughl. Can rewrite and mail though I guess.
that really sucks, I’m sorry wordpress is being such a jerk.
@Deti,
any suggestions for getting men to open up more?
You posted this at SunshineMary’s. I’ll post a public answer here if you want, or email me at the address used to register here.
awesome! Would love to hear your response.
Well, Sis, I don’t know what you mean by “getting men to open up more”. Open up about what? About how their day went at work? About what’s going on with them? About how they feel about something? About what’s bothering/eating at them?
We both tend to be emotional stuffers, it gets us in quite a bit of a mess sometimes. So I guess about stuff that bothers him.
How to get a man to open up about stuff that bothers him:
1. LISTEN.
2. DO NOT JUDGE. Don’t judge the situation, the participants, the facts, and most definitely do NOT judge him.
3. Do not try to fix the problem. Do not try to fix him, even if he is the problem.
4. Let him vent.
5. If he does not need your help, DO NOT HELP HIM.
6. DO NOT WITHHOLD PHYSICAL AFFECTION. This is when he needs you the most. Touch him every so often. Hug and kiss him.
7. REASSURE HIM. Remember when you said “for better, for worse”? This is the “for worse” part. You signed up for this. He needs to know you’re going to stand by him and you’re not going to leave him because he’s going through a rough spot.
8. DO NOT VOLUNTEER TO BE A THERAPIST. You are his wife, he is not your patient. Do not diagnose or treat him. If he needs professional help, encourage him to get it.
Men are under extreme pressure to have our stuff together, or at least make it look like we have our stuff together. We know we can lose everything in an instant if we fall apart. We want to have a safe place to say what we feel and at least get it off our chests.
good advice! Thank you kindly, Sir Deti.